But to the spouse yearning for more sex and more touch, it’s a huge deal, because it really is about feeling wanted, about feeling loved, feeling connected, about feeling masculine, or feminine and attractive.
…the person with the lower sex drive controls the sexual relationship.
He said, “When I reach out to you in bed, and you’re not there for me, the only thing I ever think about is: Are you attracted to me anymore? Do you love me like I love you? Do you want to be with me? And then when you go to sleep, and I’m lying next to you and staring up at the ceiling, all I can think about is: this is the loneliest feeling in the world lying next to you in bed.”